A good way to find your life purpose (or
"mission") is to ask yourself this question: When I am at my very best,
what are the people around me empowered to be like?
We all have moments where we are at our very best, where it seems like
what is best about us is flowing through us. We are "in the zone." We
are "on." In those moments we are usually not thinking at all, we are
just experiencing life as it was meant to be.
Think about one of these moments in your life. Remember how it felt.
Now start to think about this idea: when you are at your best, you have
an effect on the people around you. Something opens up for them,
because of you. And it's possible that the effect you have on people
when you are at your best is your purpose in life.
If that's hard to believe, think of it this way: When you are at your
worst, you tend to draw the worst out of the people around you. Most
everyone can agree with that. This is simply the same dynamic, at the
other end of the spectrum. When you are at your best, you bring out the
best in other people.
If you are looking for your core purpose in life, this is a good place
to start, because each of us brings out something slightly different in
the people around us when we are at our best, and that something,
whatever it is, might just be the special thing that you have to bring
to the world. Bringing it to the world might just be your purpose.
So think about that moment when you were at your best, and ask
yourself, "What were the people around me free to be like?"
Here are some examples:
"When I am at my best, I notice that the people around me are free to
really accept themselves, even things about themselves they would
otherwise be ashamed of. I think my purpose is to create a world where
people can live without shame."
"When I am at my best, I notice that the people around me laugh and
have a great time. I think my purpose is to create a world where joy
and laughter are the norm."
"When I am at my best, I notice that people around me feel empowered to
take on the biggest problems in their lives. I think my purpose is to
create a world where people feel empowered to take on and solve their
"When I am at my best, I notice that the people around me feel loving
of themselves and others. I think my purpose is to create a world where
people love themselves and others."
The cool thing about taking on your purpose in this way is that it
doesn't make life into one big assignment or an unending vista of work.
All you need to do is be you, when you are being you at your best. Your
effect on the world flows from that. You get to have a great life, and
to live your purpose automatically.
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